Christmas Spirit - What Is it?
When I decided that I was going to write this post I didn't have all of my thoughts clearly aligned. So I decided to select the type of photos that inspired me while listening to some of my favorite Christmas music. As I reviewed the photos it hit me like a ton of bricks. Something struck me as odd. Here I was thinking of all of the things most of us think of when getting into the Christmas"Spirit". That's what struck a chord with me. The Spirit! Its not the photos themselves, its the perception of what we see in them. Humor me a bit and slowly scroll down the page and think about what you see. Something is out of place. Do you see what it is? Let me start off with the first photo of this adorable little girl. What do you perceive? What is she doing? My thoughts at first glance was that obviously she is out doors. I thought maybe she is inside of some sort of a wooden sleigh. It may not be. There are Christmas gifts behind her, thats why I perceive a sleigh. It appeared as though she may be playing Santa handing out gifts. Then I thought, how do I know that someone didn't hand her this gift. Thats what caused me to see something in one of the other photos. Some things that are missing. Something that felt out of place. One that is different. It's like it doesn't belong. Maybe you spotted it too. Maybe its just me. I didn't feel the Spirit when I looked at it. Stay with me on this because I am talking about perception.
All of these photos are so joyous! The photo I am talking about is the young woman at the bottom left. It appears as though she is warming her hands on a cup of hot chocolate or maybe coffee. Maybe something else. It doesn't matter. First of all, she is alone. Its the only photo with one person in it. I chose it for a reason. Secondly, at first glance it appears she may be looking at some sort of activity going on or maybe just people window shopping or walking down a sidewalk. There is no way of telling. But when I look at her eyes only, I see something different. Its that sort of far off look in her eyes. They appeared to be empty. Like a blank stare. When you look at her entire face, it appears she may have a slight smile. Thats because her lips are very full. Even though they are in a natural closed position, she isn't smiling. When you focus on her eyes alone, you can see that blank stare. The reality is it may not be what I'm thinking of at all. Why am I talking about all of this? Because I know that look. Its that time of year. Everyone should be happy. Have you ever been in a room full of people that you know and care about and yet you feel all alone?
Okay, here is my point. As we all know this is one of the happiest times of the year. And it should be because of what it represents. A celebration of the birth of Christ for many people. I want everyone to just pause for moment and remember there are many people out there that are hurting, no matter what there station in life may be, rich or poor. They are empty. And I am willing to bet that each one of us, at one time or another either knows someone like that presently, or has known someone like that in the past. You may even have felt that way yourself at one time. I know I went through a very long period of that "look" in my life. Its painful! So please, as you go about your days, remember what this time of year is supposed to represent. The Spirit of Christmas. The Spirit of giving. I'm not talking about materialistic presents. Look around you. Who do you know? Do you know someone that continuously has that far off look in their eyes? Know this, they very well may be lost and empty inside. The greatest gift that we can do for someone we see like this is to give them a little smile. Say a few kind words to them. Something that no one else would care to say because everything in their life is good so they just ignore them. It doesn't hurt to try. Help lift them up. They just may respond. And that would open up the door. Remember, its not about the presents. Its about feelings. Its about someone actually caring enough to reach out. What greater gift could you give them than to offer to buy them a cup of coffee or hot chocolate and spend a little time talking to them. Its so they can release the bottled up pain inside of them. That's all. Everyone can make time if they really care. Show them that there are people who still care. We were put on this earth for a purpose. We weren't meant to go it alone. At some point in everybody's life we need someone. Someone to talk to. Someone to listen, a sounding board, maybe even give a helping hand. When do we naturally feel our best? When we know that we have done good. Why? Because deep down inside that is our real purpose on this earth. We are all part of a greater family. The true gifts in life aren't material things. It is love and compassion and kindness toward each other. It is the Spirit of giving, and the more you give the more you will receive. And that Is the truth! Do it and you will prove it. Once you have proven it, let me know. I will post your good deeds in my blog. What better way to inspire others to do the same? What greater gift can you give than that?
To prove my sincerity and how much faith I have in these words I will do this: if you or someone you know is hurting and needs to reach out, to talk and have someone listen, if you don't have the time, here is my phone number 860-337-2050. Call me. I will make time in my schedule outside of my office, and I will buy you a cup of coffer or hot chocolate and lend you my ear. The Spirit of Christmas is upon us. And this is my gift to you.
Have a very Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year,
Dan Balboni, GIA GG, ISA
Balboni Custom Jeweler, LLC
705 North Mountain Road, Suite 102-B
Newington, CT 06111